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Home Without Mother

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Home Without Mother

When the home fails to train the young in the basic principles of ethics and morality, decent behavior, good citizenship, and the like, a nation is in trouble. Real trouble. These are functions that cannot be turned over to the school or government agencies without disastrous results.

In facing this whole problem of modern woman’s dissatisfaction with her traditional and Biblical place as wife and mother, Betty Friedan, in her book The Feminine Mystique, spoke quite significantly when she said, "I have suggested that the real cause of both feminism and of woman’s frustration was the empti-ness of the housewife’s role." A century ago, women had children to teach, food to prepare, clothing to make, and husbands to take care of. The pioneer women of America, for example, shared a vital purpose. Each member of the family was a part of the team–husband, wife, and the children were all critically important to the very survival of the family.

The center of society was the home and the wife had a vital role in that center. As time has passed, what we generally call progress has moved the center out of the home into other areas, diminishing the role of the wife and mother. Children are largely taught in schools and in other special agencies. In many many families, food is produced and even prepared elsewhere (or eating out is the norm), clothing is made elsewhere, and other necessary duties of former generations are now being provided by outside sources. The wife in the home has been stripped of almost every important responsibility that a wife ought to have. The fact that these replacements have been wholly inadequate to do what she once did, largely goes unacknowledged.

But the solution is not for the woman to give in and go "where the action is" leaving home and family. For wives to follow husbands into the world of outside work is to destroy even more the irreplaceable functions of the Biblical ideal for a home. Many of the ills that face us in America today can be traced to the declining importance of the home as the center of our lives, and the vitally important role of the wife and mother in the home.

It would seem that God knows the inestimable worth of home and family, and certainly the worth of the wife and mother. And it further seems that he was very concerned to help us avoid the problems the family now faces. We say this because of what His servant Paul wrote about home to a young preacher: "But as for you [Titus], speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience; the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things–that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed" (Titus 2:1-5 NKJV). –Adapted



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